Did you ever stop & think about what you are saying to yourself on a daily basis? Have you ever really listened to what that voice in the back of your head is saying to you? I dare you to grab a small notepad, actually pay attention for one whole day, and count the number of positive and negative things that you say to yourself - better yet, do it for a week if you can take it!
I tried this experiment once upon a time and was amazed at what was being said in there! I was having a great day running errands & being my busy ol' self and (wow!) the bad to good ration was almost 100% (and the bad was BAD). I didn't understand then what I now know, and it was an eye-opening experience. Let me just say this right here & now - You can not expend enough focus on positive self-talk.
My theme this month is my experiences with Love - it is my opinion that like most successes in life, love is an inside job. How can you possibly love someone else, or let someone love you, if you don't love who you are as a person? My past relationships are a prime example of this for sure. I used to think, well, I'm just unlucky in love, I picked the wrong woman, I was younger then, etc...wrong!! I wasn't happy with who I was and it showed. It took me years to figure this out and probably wouldn't ever have noticed if someone on my Team hadn't suggested I start learning some new "people skills" through reading books (I thought, they write books on this stuff that aren't just gossip, opinion, & heresay?!).
YES! Through reading, one can experience different relationship issues at a distance and then think about how that experience is like or unlike those of your own. There are some really great books out there on the subject such as "The Five Love Languages" and "Personality Plus" and even "How to Win Friends & Influence People" just to name a few.
I suggest that one of the keys to love is getting to know yourself and how you interact with others. Don't be afraid, self knowledge leads to self-acceptance. Improvement in your ability to accept, approve, and appreciate who you are, inside and out certainly will improve how you interact with others & vice versa. Focus on why you are a good person and why you will succeed, learn to use your strengths to counteract the negative. It is difficult, it's a constant battle, and I believe a life-long one.
You are a good person, you have strengths and a purpose that nobody else has. I'd love for you to share it with us all and help make the world a better place.
Live Well - Be Well
Stephen
